Day 3: "The 5 Love Languages"

Some of you may be familiar with "The 5 Love Languages", if I were you I would suggest reading the book and taking the test. I personally believe that it is an incredible way to find out how you give and receive love. I think for anyone, regardless of whether its a romantic relationship, family, friends, that it is important to know how your heart works. 

Words of Affirmation

Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

Quality Time

In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

Receiving Gifts

Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.

Acts of Service

Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.

Physical Touch

This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.

I've realized more and more over the course of this year that my TOP Love Language is quality time. To me there is no greater gift you can give me than to spend time with me. Don't get me wrong, a gift here and there is always nice too.


Through out these past few days I have been blessed to spend quality time with some of those I love and care about. Through my journaling time today I was writing about how I love and value quality time because it is priceless. You can't take it back. You can't put a price on it. I value when others take time out of their day to just be with me.


As I was writing this out to God, as if He didn't already know what my love language is. I heard him say "that's mine too". If I want quality time with those I love, how much more does God want quality time with me? My biggest thing with this love language is that I never want people to feel forced to spend time with me, I would always want it to come from a place of genuine excitement to spend time together.


I would imagine that God feels the same way. That He would want quality time that is not forced, but that comes from a place of yearning to be in His presence. The thing about me with quality time is that to me it doesn't mean that every second of every hour has to be spent talking. It could easily be sitting in a Starbucks across from me doing work on your laptop. Or sitting on the couch watching a movie. It's the sheer act of just being with me.


It really got me thinking about how much does God want that? To just BE in His presence. Not always talking, but also just listening to what He would have to say.


We make time for things we value, if God is a value and a top priority to us, then we too should be making time for Him. Not out of obligation or because we feel forced, but because I truly believe we could be loving on Him the way we expect others to love on us. We can't expect others to do things for us that we aren't first willing to do for them.

Day 3: Still trucking.